Are you nervous about the second date? If you are dating online and don't know your date through friends, this can be a key time where you decide what you think about her. It is during the second date that you get to know each other better so that you can filter out bad options. Here are some good tips for your second date.The first date is about establishing if there is chemistry. The second date is where you get a sense of where it is going. Because you are getting to know each other, you want her to know where you are in the dating process. For example, are you looking for something really serious or casual? Do you plan to take things really slowly or are you more forward than that? This date sets where you are at with her and lets her know your comfort level. This is also the time to set the type of behavior that you want. For example, if she is nice, then highlight that. If she does something you don't like, let her know. This cements your ideals and lets her know both what you expect from her and what she can expect from you. It makes the dating experience ten times easier later on in the relationship.
Secondly, have a filtering mentality. You want to make sure she is your type so notice trends and habits she has. For example, she may have had a forgivable flaw in the first date that you might have dismissed. If she does it in the second date (i.e. over talker, rude, insincere), take it more seriously.
The second date is almost your last chance to make a move. If you haven't kissed by the end of this date, move on. You should at the very least be holding hands. If you had the first date jitters, you should realize that women are more used to guys hitting on them than the opposite. If you don't make a move she may take that to be lack of interest or, even worst, lack of confidence. Make a move. Her reaction will give you a sense of your level of chemistry. Remember to try any move at least twice and to do so when there is a high point. A perfect example is to reward her with a kiss when she makes a great joke or says something about herself that you appreciate.
Be comfortable teasing her on your second date. While some jokes are inappropriate, you should be comfortable with banter. This is a time to show her your more relaxed side. When you share embarrassing or humorous stories, you show that you don't take yourself too seriously and that you are confident in your attractiveness. If you are uncomfortable with her, it can be taken as a sign of bad chemistry.
Finally, you need to be genuine. By that I mean that you should not suck up or act needy. A lot of men come across as insincere and insecure by flooding her with compliments. Do not do that. Only reward her for what you truly like. This way, you bring out those qualities in her. Also, honestly tell her what you really like. She may be a pretty face, but, if you date her for months or years, you'll care about other stuff eventually. And it's better to find out now if she is not your type than to be miserable with her for years.
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